TO THE MEN...

1. Find male friends who warn you when you are heading in the wrong direction, not men who watch you walk into a fire and think its none of their business
2. Find male friends who respect the woman you love, not the ones who incite you to mistreat her and take her for granted
3. Find male friends who you can trust with your children and can mentor them, not those who are horrible role models
4. Find male friends who invest with you, not those who waste your money as they drink with you
5. Find male friends who are about making a legacy, not just making money
6. Find male friends who will value your family and understand why you need to go home early, not those who rubbish your home and steal your family time
7. Find male friends you can vent to and open up to, not those you pretend you are buddies with but you can't trust with your struggles
8. Find male friends who will rebuke you when you don't treat your wife right, not those who encourage you to slap and dominate her
9. Find male friends who will tell you tough truths as a brother, not those who stroke your ego because they want something from you
10. Find male friends with a vision and who sharpen you like iron sharpens iron, not those who are comfortable in being lost and waste your greatness
11. Find male friends who want to talk about life issues and the state of your inner man as they pray with you, not those who all they talk about is sports
12. Find male friends who teach you how to respect women, not those who lure you into talking about women as sex objects and trophies
13. Find male friends who seek solutions, not those who talk big about politics but do nothing to impact society
TO THE LADIES...
1. Find lady friends who pray and inspire, not those who gossip
2. Find lady friends who respect your man, not those who trash him
3. Find lady friends who snap you out of your negativity, not those who join you in complaining and feeling sorry
4. Find lady friends who you can rely on to take care of your children in case of an emergency, not those you can't trust to model values to your young ones
5. Find lady friends who bring you progress and peace, not those who bring you drama and scandals
6. Find lady friends who give you good advice born out of sisterly love and wisdom, not those who mislead you due to their bitterness and jealousy
7. Find lady friends who invest with you and tell you of opportunities, not t

hose who are OK with their current season as they tell you juicy news about others
8. Find lady friends who are happy for your growth and want you to succeed, not those who see you as a threat
9. Find lady friends who respect your love life, not those who make moves on your man
10. Find lady friends who challenge your mind, not those who only talk about beauty and trends
11. Find lady friends who will bless you, not those who will drain you and use you
12. Find lady friends who will calm you down when you are about to make an irrational decision, not those who cheer you on as you mess up
13. Find lady friends who keep your secrets, not those who pretend to be good to you only to share your private matters with others and betray you
Look for friends who bring you peer influence, not peer pressure

MARRIAGE AND EX-LOVERS

Friendship with your EX can't continue after marriage. If they missed you so bad they should have married you instead of dumping you. Now that you are married, they should please step aside while you enjoy your marriage!
Some EX lovers are stubborn! They suddenly wake up, realized all the goodies they missed and start hunting for you in the name of friendship. If you are naive, you fall for their crap, go back to soothing them and helping them where their spouses have failed. Stories abound of married people having affairs with their EX. Adultery is the end result of that folly.
Emotions don't die. All the feelings you have for all your EX lovers haven't disappeared. They are simply suppressed. They are there, lying dormant silently, noiselessly until the object of the emotional attraction shows up and there is an explosion!
You suddenly discover you have hidden passion that can go haywire for an EX while still under your husband's roof or while you are married to the best woman in the world.
Guard your heart is what the holy book says. You have no single business with your EX after marriage. They made a choice not to marry you and now that you are happily married they should leave you alone and let you enjoy your marriage in peace...FEEL FREE TO SHARE, God bless you, cheers!